Example 1.

How does a weak man (weak as a person, immature) react if, after a breakup, he passes by a place where he was often together, or he hears romantic music that reminds him of someone he loved?

He INDULGES himself going into sadness, dejection. Goes to look at his ex’s Facebook, or starts reminiscing, or engages in “What a fool I was, How wrong I’ve been acting,” or falls into “No one needs me.” Starts looking at his “black hole” (I’ll tell you later about it).

Because there’s a certain kind of masochistic high in that – “Нes, I had that kind of love story, yes, I’m so sensitive, I have feelings, subtle and special, it’s all incredibly sad. And actually, it’s all fundamentally changed my life, and now here I am having an atomic explosion and an earthquake, I just can’t live like I used to, I’ll hang in there for a couple of years. It’s an official good reason to self-destruct.”

But holding on to this illusory and fleeting benefit, he misses the longer-term and more important benefit of staying in a good state, of stability, of improving it and getting out of it all completely. And to gain much more in the end.

He misses out golden placers of benefits, because of this fleeting alleged benefit. And does a lot of harm to himself.

By indulging himself in thoughts, by spinning himself on all these emotions and feelings, by allowing himself to do so, he DOES increase them, by his own hands, and makes it so hard to get out of this state of mind.

These feelings take hold of him and set the tone for his day, his life.

How does a strong person react in this situation?

In a second, he drives those thoughts away and switches.

Pfft, yeah, the music. Yeah, the place.

All right, it was, it was a good story, it was interesting, let’s move on.

What else have I got useful and good things to do today on the plan?

And that will all pass. It’s good that on the whole I’m doing well – I have arms and legs, there are people around me, plenty of opportunities. And this will all overlap, change, everything will be even better.

There will be a continuation with other examples.
Of course, this is all entirely appropriate for women as well.

Example 2.

How does a weak (immature) person react if no clients come from the advertising or the project fails?

He PUTS himself into thinking, “No one needs me. Everything I do doesn’t work. It’s a failure, it’s all gone. My life is all fucked up. I can’t do anything. Others are successful, and I can’t even make a good advertisement, I don’t understand why it happened! Nothing can be changed. I’m going to get drunk.

How does the strong one react?

“Yeah, okay, that ad didn’t work on that sentence. Well, I assumed in advance it might not work, so it’s normal, it’s commonplace. All right, I’ll think of ways to make it differently – another source, another contractor, another offer, another product, something to increase conversions, a good copywriter, something else.”

Example 3.

How does a weak person react if he heard bad news in the morning + bad weather + he has no one, he’s alone?

“Oh noooo. Allright, I’m in a bad mood, I’ll go and whine to someone, maybe someone is also a bad mood and they too wonder how it’s possible to live like this. I don’t want to do anything, and I won’t. There is so much bad from all sides. Everything comes flying at me from all directions. When there will already be a white streak? Everyone has a normal life, and I am such a loser.

How does a strong person react in this case?

“So what? The news, ok. It’s not terrible, solvable. How do I solve this situation? Or it does not concern me at all? Then I just throw it out. The weather is not the best to go out today? I’ll try to arrange to stay home or I will try to enjoy this weather. I don’t I have anyone? I don’t even think about it, or rather I think about how cool it is, I have so many opportunities now in this cycle of my life. In fact, my life is a fairy tale!”